Tuesday, March 8, 2011


A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

What does the Bible say about a right but not a perfect relationship? Proverbs 21:21 states it clearly, “He who pursues righteousness and love finds life, prosperity and honor.” (NIV) Every relationship must be based on righteousness and love to receive the intended desire and when it is achieved, the result is absolutely certain: success attained. However, one must be ready to face the reality of differences in many areas between the male and female consciousness. There is a tremendous distinction in all aspects. Even the command for husbands and wives written in the Bible speaks volume as stated in Colossians 3:18-19, “Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” (NIV)

It is very interesting to see how each has received such commands. There is always a reason behind it and it is related to the configuration of each others’ brain and emotional composition. Everybody can testify to it especially from both men and women. That’s why; no one must come to a relationship with an intention to change the other person because that is a mission impossible. If God created them distinct from each other, then why would anyone dare to change another to their own likeness?

Keep in mind that the best person to provide the bridge towards a perfect relationship is God Himself being the Creator of such a relationship. He was the one who met the need of Adam and provided Eve for himself. Here’s the biblical story: “The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.” (Genesis 2:18-22, NIV) Thus, the first garden wedding was held: “The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man." For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:23-24, NIV)

We can never live our life without any relationship for we were created to be in one. While we might not be in a perfect relationship now, take a deep breath and believe that with God all things are possible! God will make a way where there seems to be no way and he will do so again and again. Don’t give up and give in but continue to believe.

Let’s talk again!