Overcoming Personal Insecurity

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Never become insecure about what others are doing beneficial to God’s work. Insecurity becomes an enemy of releasing great potential in an individual’s life. When you find yourself in this predicament, all level of creativity becomes dull and ineffective. Trusting in your gifts and what you are capable is crucial to achieving personal success. No one has everything, and remembering everyone has moments of insecurity helps us overcome ours. However, the difference with others is how they conquer their insecurities and becomes a stronger person than before.

Here’s a story found in Numbers 11:24-30 about an instance of insecurity attack:

“So Moses went out and told the people what the LORD had said. He brought together seventy of their elders and had them stand around the tent. Then the LORD came down in the cloud and spoke with him, and he took some of the power of the Spirit that was on him and put it on the seventy elders. When the Spirit rested on them, they prophesied—but did not do so again. However, two men, whose names were Eldad and Medad, had remained in the camp. They were listed among the elders, but did not go out to the tent. Yet the Spirit also rested on them, and they prophesied in the camp. A young man ran and told Moses, “Eldad and Medad are prophesying in the camp.” Joshua son of Nun, who had been Moses’ aide since youth, spoke up and said, “Moses, my lord, stop them!” But Moses replied, “Are you jealous for my sake? I wish that all the LORD’s people were prophets and that the LORD would put his Spirit on them!” Then Moses and the elders of Israel returned to the camp.”

The same scenario happened when John saw another performing what Jesus was doing:

“Master, we saw someone casting out demons in your name, and we tried to stop him, because he does not follow with us.” But Jesus said to him, “Do not stop him, for the one who is not against you is for you” (Luke 9:49-50, ESV).

Just like how Moses provided them with an important truth, Jesus provided John the most important guideline in our service to God: “Do not stop him, for the one who is not against you is for you.” No matter how you view it, God is not a respecter of persons. He wills and chooses whom He wanted. Just because a person is not part of our “exclusive” group, they must stop doing what they are doing. On the contrary, these instances are eye-openers for us that we are not alone in doing the task given to us. But unfortunately, this is where insecurity attacks people by often masking as a seeming concern for the individual or group where an outsider operates in the same way or better.

It is during this moment of seeming concern that a sharp discernment of what is going on in the person’s psyche is needed. Are they concern or just insecure of others sharing in the same gifting? Let’s learn to differentiate what’s real concern when there’s one and when insecurity is rearing its ugly head. Seeing the big picture like Moses and Jesus is more important than engaging in exclusions of others outside of our group especially when they are doing God’s work as we do.

What’s the best way of overcoming insecurity? First, admission is the first step and recognition of its reality in one’s life. I like how Kobe Bryant dealt with his insecurity:

“I have self-doubt. I have insecurity. I have fear of failure. I have nights when I show up at the arena and I'm like, 'My back hurts, my feet hurt, my knees hurt. I don't have it. I just want to chill.' We all have self-doubt. You don't deny it, but you also don't capitulate to it. You embrace it.”

Next, become open with the fact that God endowed people with various gifts and talents. Individuals received what is appropriate for them because “we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them” (Ephesians 2:10 ESV). Finally, we must realize our uniqueness. When we do, we will never see other people as competitors but instead, see them as partners in the same work albeit in a different group. Remember, God is in the habit of doing various things His way in fulfilling His plans and purpose. If we are doing God’s plan and purpose, others are doing the same and they are part of God’s team just like us.

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When Things Are Rough

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How should anyone react to the rough and tough times one is facing? I believe that in all things, one should never lose hope but instead be filled with optimism. Nothing by shall any means for anyone to become pessimistic. 

Here’s a story to illustrate how all of us should have the right attitude in life: A little boy was overheard talking to himself as he strutted through the backyard, wearing his baseball cap and toting a ball and bat. "I'm the greatest hitter in the world," he announced. Then he tossed the ball into the air, swung at it, and missed. "Strike One!" he yelled. Undaunted, he picked up the ball and said again, "I'm the greatest hitter in the world!" He tossed the ball into the air. When it came down he swung again and missed. "Strike Two!" he cried. The boy then paused a moment to examine his bat and ball carefully. He spit on his hands and rubbed them together. He straightened his cap and said once more, "I'm the greatest hitter in the world!" Again he tossed the ball up in the air and swung at it. He missed. "Strike Three! Wow!" he exclaimed. "I'm the greatest pitcher in the world!" (Hodgin,1994, loc. 1081).

Your attitude determines how circumstances impact your life. The little boy's circumstances hadn't changed, but his optimistic attitude prompted him to give an encouraging meaning to what had happened. There was an instance in the life of David that could teach us how to have the correct attitude during some rough times. In 1 Samuel 30:1-6, the story goes like this: “And it came to pass, when David and his men were come to Ziklag on the third day, that the Amalekites had invaded the south, and Ziklag, and smitten Ziklag, and burned it with fire; And had taken the women captives, that were therein: they slew not any, either great or small, but carried them away, and went on their way. So David and his men came to the city, and, behold, it was burned with fire; and their wives, and their sons, and their daughters, were taken captives. Then David and the people that were with him lifted up their voice and wept, until they had no more power to weep. And David's two wives were taken captives, Ahinoam the Jezreelitess, and Abigail the wife of Nabal the Carmelite. And David was greatly distressed; for the people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters: but David encouraged himself in the LORD his God” (KJV).

What happened to David and his men was indeed heartbreaking and their reaction was ordinary and reasonable. However, after they were pacified they put the blame on David even if all of them including David were affected. Yet they could not help but to blame him for their misfortune. It was a typical response for anyone to find fault. Someone must receive the brunt of it all. But instead of reacting, he retreated to a secluded place and “…encouraged himself in the Lord.”

This made David a remarkable character. He responded with the tragedy like any other men. He felt helpless and angry. He empathized and cried with his people. But what separated him from the rest was his own ability to rise above it all in spite of the negative reaction he faced from his men. He knew what to do at times like those. He gave us a great lesson to bear in mind: during rough times, don’t give up!

Like the little boy I mentioned in the story, he was like David, not allowing anything to deter him from looking at life from both perspectives. Some of us might call it “fighting spirit.” But the Scripture calls it hope. The most important lesson of them all is this: rough times are God’s opportunity to show His miracles when given the chance. Keep in mind that “God never leaves us nor forsake us” (Hebrews 13:5). Thomas Edison said, “I have not failed 10,000 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 10,000 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.”

What difficult time are you going through right now? Can you do something to change it? If you can, don't wait another day, make the needed changes. If you can't change the circumstance, however, change your attitude; you'll discover that circumstances won't have the last word.

 Sources:

Hodgin, M. (1994). 1001 Humorous Illustrations for Public Speaking: Fresh, Timely, and

Compelling Illustrations for Preachers, Teachers and Speaker. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.

Furr, N. (2011, June 9). How Failure Taught Edison to Repeatedly Innovate. Entrepreneurs.

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Silence at the Right Time

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Somebody said, “It is a great art in the Christian life to learn to be silent. Under oppositions, rebukes, injuries, still be silent. It is better to say nothing, even if the occasion should seem to justify a degree of anger.” How does one keep silent when everything around is out of control especially when we say we are followers of Jesus? The apostle James emphasized, “If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless” (James 1:26 ESV). Ellicott's Commentary for English Readers explained, “The first mark of true religion is gentleness of tongue, just as the contrary, blasphemy, is the most damning fault of all.” Also, it highlights what Jesus reminds us of the words we speak affects our eternal future, “By thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned” (Matthew 12:37, KJV).

How great is our little tongue? Interestingly, Dale A. Robbins explained, “It has been said that the “tongue” is one of the most exercised muscles of our body. It has been estimated that in a typical week, the average person will speak enough words to fill a 500-page book!” This is the reason why we should remember that one of the wisdom’s best qualities is the ability to hold the tongue. The simple fact is this: God gave us two ears and one mouth signifying which aspect of attitude one must apply in every conversation. Let’s keep in mind how God intended for which part needs more time and utilized during any discussions we engage in at the moment.

Personally, I had my share of irresponsible words causing greater problems, coming from allowing my emotional trigger of pride ahead of my logical thinking. In the end, I became embarrassed by my actions and apologized for what I did. Unfortunately, unkind words came out and cannot take back. And it caused the intended (not accidental) damage of belittling other’s opinion and negating their situation without any consideration for the long-term value of the relationship. Yes, I won the argument but lost a relationship, and my action resulted in bringing more negativity on both sides.

On the other hand, when is speaking out becomes appropriate? It becomes correct when there's an opportunity for explaining oneself and clarifying one’s stand. Also, it becomes suitable when done for the sake of agreement and maintaining relationship. Now, how does one respond when pride rears its ugly head and asserts itself being right and condemned you as wrong? This scenario allows an opportunity of choosing silence after everything is said and done in the right way. Moreover, silence acts as our ally in the situation without aggravating the situation any further.

Remember, it is no longer about asserting our right and insisting our defense but instead allowing God’s intervention of our cause. Consequently, there are three truths in every conflict: our side of the truth, their side of the truth and God’s truth. No matter what we do, only God brings out the truth in the end. Just continually trust Him for He knows what to do.

Applying silence needs constant practice. First, it begins with guarding our mouth against speaking careless words. Somebody said, “We have an epidemic of people sharing their opinions without regard to whether or not they have anything meaningful to say. Next, let’s hold back our tongue from sweet talk and insincere flattery. Here’s something to consider in this matter:

The next time you receive a letter that carries the word "Sincerely" above the signature of the writer, pause a moment and think of the origin of that word. It was first used as "sincerely," meaning "without wax," by ancient sculptors to mark a flawless piece of work. Wax was then commonly employed to conceal defects, to patch a chipped nose, a poorly shaped finger, etc. Sincerely is too honest a word to be used loosely, but it is a good word when consciously employed. ~ Source Unknown

Finally, safeguard our heart from any “root of bitterness.” Alfred Auston, Slips of Speech, Funk and Wagnalls Company commented,

When you speak, speak clearly and naturally. Say what you mean and mean what you say; be brief and sensible. Words should drop from the lips as beautiful coins newly issued from the mint, deeply and accurately impressed, perfectly finished, neatly struck by the proper organs, distinct, sharp, in due succession and of due weight.

At the end of the day, we make the choices affecting any situation towards success or failure. If at all possible, preserve the relationship even if you disagree with one another and if keeping the relationship is not feasible, settle everything amicably and separate ways as brethren in Christ.

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When Facing Unexpected Storms

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Mildred Witte Struven wrote, “A clay pot sitting in the sun will always be a clay pot. It has to go through the white heat of the furnace to become porcelain” (Bits and Pieces, September 19, 1991, p.6). Job’s life is a quintessential example of the worst kind of storm anyone faces in his or her lifetime. Job’s faithfulness pleased God and bragged about it during a meeting with Satan. It seems odd for such a conversation, but it happened. Satan challenged Job’s faithfulness as a result of a quid pro quo arrangement with God. Everything on the table except death. God’s confidence in Job became the lightning rod for Satan’s accusation. Then the battle of faith begins with storms of huge proportion right after another.

Job’s first three storms came on everything he owned and made him miserable in an instant. In just one day, from being the richest man in his time, he became the poorest (Job 1:3). Job’s next storm came on his children and lost his ten children through a freak storm killing them all in one swoop (Job 1:2). Job’s next storm was a physical attack, and painful sores appeared all over his body (Job 1:2). Job’s next storm was losing moral and spiritual support from his wife (Job 1:2). In all of these things, Job stood on his faith and integrity. Somebody said it appropriately; “In adversity we usually want God to do a removing job when He wants to do an improving job. To realize the worth of the anchor, we need to feel the storm.” Robert Schmidgall described,

“The Scriptures often exhort us to be filled with various godly virtues--which means what? How do we know if we are "full of goodness" (Rom. 15:14), for example? Think a moment about a water-saturated sponge. If we push down with our finger even slightly, water runs out onto the table. We immediately know what fills the interior pockets of the sponge. The same is true of ourselves. We can tell what fills us on the inside by what comes out under pressure.”

In this scenario faced with such tremendous pressure, let’s ensure these attitudes are present in helping us sustain our faith when storms of life occur:

1.      Let our faith in God become reliable through the storms of life because “he who promised is faithful” (Hebrews 10:23). Oswald Chambers wrote, “Faith for my deliverance is not faith in God. Faith means, whether I am visibly delivered or not, I will stick to my belief that God is love. There are some things only learned in a fiery furnace.”

2.      Let the integrity of our faith in God’s ways and means become resilient as the storm intensifies because “Whoever walks in integrity will be delivered” (Proverbs 28:18a). J. C. Ferdinand Pittman shared this beautiful illustration, “A bell buoy rings only during storms. The beating of the waves and wind bring out the music that is within it, so too do trials reveal what is inside a person.

3.      Let our commitment to maintaining God’s honor become resolute in the midst of the storm because “The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer” (Proverbs 15:28a). Carl Lundquist shared, “Henry Wingblade used to say that Christian personality is hidden deep inside us. No one knows what's inside--unless the waiter is bumped and he trips! Just so, people don't know what's inside us until we've been bumped. But if Christ is living inside, what spills out is the fruit of the Spirit.”

In the end, Job remained faithful in his conviction, although there were times it seemed he wavered, but only for a short period being typical of anyone when facing the same storms. Job’s story remained an essential backdrop in remembering what we face daily and look back at this story with full knowledge that God is always in control no matter what.

Here’s something for us to reflect and experience a new sense of hope in God’s promises:

God has not promised skies always blue,

Flower-strewn pathways all our life through;

God has not promised sun without rain,

Joy without sorrow, peace without pain.

But God has promised strength for the day,

Rest for the labor, light for the way;

Grace for the trials, help from above,

Unfailing sympathy, undying love. ~ Source Unknown.

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