This is what the Scriptures speak about it in Ephesians 4:26: “Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don't use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don't stay angry. Don't go to bed angry. Don't give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life.” (MSG)
In order to understand how powerful anger is when uncontrolled, let me share you a story I come across: This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital. Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or you wish to take revenge. Think first before you lose your patience with someone you love. Trucks can be repaired. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
Let us keep in mind that we can never attain to have self-control at all times. The Scriptures does not even prohibit being angry. As a matter of fact, we are allowed except do not allow yourself to sin with it. We can never take back what was spoken out of anger. There is a prayer that we can apply found in Psalms 141:3 and it states, “Post a guard at my mouth, God, set a watch at the door of my lips.” (MSG) Remember that when you pray this prayer, our teeth that stand as a guard will bite an angry tongue.
What will be the best antidote in order to restrain oneself towards anger and to avoid any damage as a result? Let ‘s heed what James 1: 19 states, “Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” (NLT) It is very important to know what constitutes our communication system. Let me share what I have always discussed during pre-marital counseling in the area of communication. I’ve discovered that our communication system involves three major things and its percentages; 38 percent tone, 55 percent non-verbal and only 7 percent words. Therefore, when these things are considered carefully and fully remembered, I believe that there will be moments of peace in any conversation we will have with one another. The target plan is for an anger to be controlled accordingly within the right parameters, but cannot be removed altogether.
Therefore, communication is a process and needs to be learned as a skill in order to have the best relationship in all levels. Here’s another principle to remember to become a better communicator: “A person who is angry on the right grounds, against the right persons, in the right manner, at the right moment, and for the right length of time deserves great praise.”
Having the right mindset and to follow wholeheartedly what the Scriptures have declared to do will allow us to get a better grip of any words that comes out of our mouth whether in anger or not. In doing so, people around us will become comfortable whenever we are with them knowing that we will not become a volcano ready to erupt at any time. We are able to do it especially when we have God on our side. Keep praying that our mouth will always speak blessings and not curses. And in this kind of prayer, God always answer us.
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